A LIST OF CLUES FOR CYBERDOMS THAT WANT TO IMPRESS MEby Pam (Alkallah@aol.com) I thought I'd take a brief moment to provide a bit of education for the leather impaired - the AOL cyberdoms whose entire education consisted of reading a letter in Penthouse. - CBT is NOT a cable channel. - A cock ring is NOT where you go to watch cock fighting. Vanilla-isms: Causes and Curesby Lady Green (permission applied for)The psychotherapeutic establishment is still struggling to understand the subset of sexual activity characterized by hysterical insistence on the appearance of complete equality at all times, as well as by a marked preference for physical and emotional sensations so mild that many would consider them inadequate or boring.The practitioners of this so-called "lovestyle," colloquially known as "vanilla" sex, maintain that their preferences are perfectly normal (many statistics indicate that the majority of adults have at least experimented with this type of sex) and harm nobody.Expert opinions, however, are divided on this controversial topic. Most therapists feel that vanilla-ism can be traced to early childhood experiences, and that the patient desiring relief from his or her vanilla impulses can indeed be helped to experience a broader and more fulfilling range of sexual practices.Theories about the source of vanilla desires vary. Some of the most widely accepted ones are: |
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