The collaring and Commitment Ceremony of
Mistress Toppitoes and slave subbitoes
The difference between ritual and ceremony is that a ritual
is done on a regular basis and a ceremony is a special one time occasion.
Sunday 29th July 2001
at
The Edge,
Devon,
England
MsDemmie:-
"We come together in this place today to witness these two people make a
commitment to each other that they are not at this time able to make under the
laws of any land but which they know they must make."
"This commitment is without end, depth, breadth or height. It is
immeasurable, cannot be seen, touched or felt by anyone more than them."
"It is a locking of hearts, minds, spirits and souls. It strengthens them
and makes them one."
GIVING OF THE COLLAR
Toppitoes and subbitoes face each other with subbitoes kneeling at her feet.
Toppitoes places the collar around subbitoes neck.
Toppitoes:-
"With the placing of this collar around your neck and your acceptance
thereof, I vow to do everything I can to be worthy of you."
"I promise to hold you and keep you safe, to stretch you and give you
flight, to respect the needs of our relationship above all others, to love
you, honour you, support you in all things and be
sensitive to your needs and desires all underpinned by the respect that I have
for you and the deep and joyful knowledge that with you two halves are made
whole."
"I acknowledge the trust you have placed in me and the responsibility
that goes with my acceptance of that trust."
"I will never violate or even threaten to violate that trust."
"I will endeavour to be open minded enough to learn new things. Strong
enough to grow. In times of trouble, to be a supportive friend and partner,
never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring
people."
"We will continue to love and enjoy all our children. Our home will
always be haven for them and they will each know that they are not only
accepted just as they are, but also adored and enjoyed."
"I acknowledge and accept with all my heart the gift of submission you
have made to me. The collar itself is a symbol of that which we already
know... that you are mine and by it's wearing you are safe to be everything
that you are."
"Do you accept this symbol in the spirit by which it is given you?"
subbitoes:-
"Yes, and this answer is given after deep reflection, unpretentious, in
the spirit of my submission to you."
"The collar you offer me is a powerful reminder of the control I have
surrendered to you."
"I accept this collar as an outward expression of your ownership of
me."
"I do so freely, fully and without restriction."
"I agree to honour our relationship above all others, and seek to fulfil
your needs and desires as you allow."
"I promise to support you and to be there for you always when you need
me."
"I promise to always communicate openly and honestly with you keeping
nothing from you."
"I will strive to be the best soul mate that I can be for you and will
not in anyway dishonour you."
"I will love you also in silence within my soul."
"I will wear this collar with pride, knowing that you love me, cherish
me, respect me and hold me above all others."
"And in my turn I promise to love, honour, respect and obey you for the
rest of eternity."
THE GIVING OF THE LOCK
subbitoes:-
"With this lock I express the finality of my commitment to you and
surrender my body and passion to you whenever it is closed."
"Within the circle it closes, it allows me to do your will and allows me
to follow in all directions possible."
"It remains as a solid symbol of my trust in you without fear of outcome
and allows me to give myself to you."
"My trust in you is shown as I give my up my safe words."
"By my desire to please and not because of fear of punishment."
"It keeps me safely within your bond and excludes all others' powers over
me."
Toppitoes:-
"With each closing of this lock, I shall accept the depths of your
passion, devotion, and trust and provide a haven where you are safe to express
all desires to me knowing that I accept all that you have been, all that you
are and all that you will be."
The collar is now locked.
After this the song "Love" by Steve Harley is played.
THE GIVING OF RINGS
Mistress:-
(Placing the ring on her slave's finger)
"I ask you to wear this as an outward symbol of my ownership of
you. One that the whole world will see, but only a select few shall truly
understand that you may feel the strength of my ommitment to you at all
times."
slave:-
(Placing the ring on his Mistress's finger)
"I ask you to wear this as an outward symbol of your ownership of me. One
that the whole world will see, but only a select few shall truly understand
that you may feel the strength of my commitment to you at all times."
THE CEREMONY OF THE ROSES
With a thorn on the stem of her red rose, she pricks his middle finger and
lets two drops of blood fall on the white petals of his rose. He then offers
the thorns of his rose to her and she pricks her own finger. She lets two
drops fall to his rose, one alone and one on top of a drop of his. The two
then press their fingers together and make their vows to be joined by blood.
Mistress:-
"I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and
forever."
"I will trust you and honour you, care for you and protect you."
"I will always be open and honest with you and will be eternally grateful
for your wholly accepting love."
"I will laugh with you and cry with you."
"I will love you faithfully."
"Through the best and the worst, the difficult and the easy, what ever
may come I will always be there."
"As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep."
slave:-
"I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and
forever."
"I will trust you and honour you, care for you and protect you."
"I will always be open and honest with you."
"I will laugh with you and cry with you."
"I will love you faithfully."
"Through the best and the worst, the difficult and the easy, what may
come I will always be there."
"As I have given you my hand to hold, I give you my life to keep."
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This ended the first part of the ceremony. I can honestly say that during this
part of the ceremony I don't think there was a dry eye in the house. I
struggled very hard at times to say the parts that I needed to say as I was
completely overwhelmed with emotions. I would manage to say a single sentence
and would then have to wait while Toppitoes held me and I gathered myself
together to say the next sentence. It was such a powerful experience and for
me a much more meaningful way of committing myself to Toppitoes for the rest
of my life than a church or registry office service would be.
I was relieved that Toppitoes liked her ring which was commissioned to my own
design. The ring represents a flogger with the handle containing two rubies
and a diamond and the tails of the flogger twisted round to form the rest of
the ring.
We took a break at the end of the first part to enable everyone to recover
from the emotion and whilst some of the guests went off out (as it was not
appropriate for them to attend the second
part) and NetwOrm set up all his piercing equipment.
We then moved into to the Dungeon for the second part of the ceremony. For
those of you who know it I was placed face down on the Y-Bench and Toppitoes
proceeded to flog and cane me (to the
sound of Nirvana) - all the while giving a running commentary to our friends
so that they could understand what was going on.
As she dropped me deeper and deeper into sub space she would get me to turn my
head round so that they could see the blissed out look on my face. A couple of
our friends had brought some camera equipment and a video recorder so the
whole ceremony will be recorded for posterity.
I was then turned over onto my back and the legs of the Y-bench were pulled
apart so that NetwOrm could get to work. A compilation of Enigma tracks was
playing in the background as he got to work on my scrotum. A scrotal ladder of
5 rings was done by NetwOrm in what seemed like a very short space of time. I
think I was so deep in sub space that I hardly noticed the time go by.
When he had finished and the Dungeon had cleared Toppitoes helped me to sit up
and I saw the piercing for the first time. I was stunned and really pleased -
the photos I had seen of others on the internet really did not do the scrotal
ladder justice. The five rings will be stretched up a couple of sizes when
healed and the final rings will each contain an engraved bead s-l-a-v-e.
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The ceremony of the roses we found on the internet and adapted for our own
purposes but the symbolism is supposed to be as follows.
The significance of the roses:
The white rose, still not in full bloom, symbolizes his submission. The white
colour represents the purity of his gift, while the still slightly closed
petals show that his submission has not come into full bloom. It never will.
Submission is ever deepening, ever growing and the submissive will never reach
a place where he cannot open a bit more for his Dominant.
The red rose, almost fully open, signifies her dominance. The red represents
her passion and desire to posses and protect him at all costs, though it may
require her to spill her blood to do so. The rose is almost in full bloom to
symbolize that she is ready and mature enough to accept the responsibilities
required of her.
The significance of the blood:
Pricking the finger of the submissive is symbolic of taking his virginity. He
has shed blood to give himself completely to her. The drops on the white rose
also speak of the same thing.
In pricking her own finger, the dominant shows her willingness to shed her
blood to protect and defend him by virtue of her ownership. The drops on his
rose show that vividly; the drop that
falls on his blood covers it and blends with it, thus indicating their union.
Pressing the wounds from the thorns together allows their blood to mix,
joining them as strongly as their own family blood-lines. They are now of the
same flesh and blood.
Exchanging the roses is symbolic of their gift of themselves to each other.
The significance of the petals:
The mixture of the petals signifies the mixing and blending of their lives.
Couples often keep them in a decorative jar, once the petals have dried
completely. Upon death, a portion of those petals are placed with the body to
show a bond that will extend beyond the grave. Many legends are told of roses
that have sprung up on the graves of couples who have loved so strongly during
their physical lifetime that even in death they sent back evidence of their
everlasting love in the form of roses that
bloom again on the graves.
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Last update December 15, 2001
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