I began this project because so many people were writing to me about rituals and ceremonies and there seemed to be nothing on the internet regarding them.  So, I began this page.  If you are here, you are most likely considering me as the officiant for your ceremony, and you want to know more about me and my beliefs. 

My current belief system, and there have been many, involves a genderless, faceless supreme being.  I feel that this Supreme Being is all genders, all gods, all goddesses.  You can address this being by any of the names used by other gods, because he/she is ONE.  I tend to pray to this Being as Lilith or Kali.  Why?  I admire the principle of Lilith.  She was cast out of Eden because she refused to lie beneath Adam.  She refused to be subservient.  I admire her as a woman who was willing to take the consequences of her actions and to stand up for what she felt was right.

A Hierarchical Pagan (who used to be a devout Lutheran) is into ritual and ceremony in their worship.  The ceremonies that I prefer are full of symbolism and interactive.  I like the symbolism of the blood in the Ceremony of the Roses.  In the bonding ceremonies I've written for myself, there are permanent markings for the slave, and the spilling of blood.  I tend to lean a little to the dramatic when given my head, though I can also help design simple ceremonies without a lot of fire and flash.  In my life I've read a lot of books on various religions and rituals.   I find ritual and symbolism to be comforting, and of course, all symbolism is akin to sympathetic magick.  I have great respect for Christian beliefs as exemplified by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America.  This is one of the less judgemental and least fundamentalist Christian Churches that I know of.  I still, upon occasion attend a church service, though I am no longer formally Christian.

I've been, in my life, a Baptist, a Wiccan, a Lutheran, an Agnostic and now I'm reasonably relaxed in my religion.   I do personally feel that there is a Supreme Being who created the world, but I am not totally convinced that this Being interferes in our day to day lives.  I think that you must be as morally correct as possible, but I feel that this stores up your Karma here on the earth and you get it back in this life.  I think you reap what you sow, as the saying is, so that wrongful acts in the here and now will get you retribution in the future.

Well, that's me as far as religion.

As for my home life, I am happily married to a wonderful man.  Besides running the Frugal Domme, I do a lot of socializing.  He's not a really social person.  I also teach classes several times a year for the BDSM community.  I'm on the board of directors for the Dungeon Monitors' Association.  I'm currently writing a book for people new to the lifestyle and with my niece, Atheris, I'm writing a book on piercing.

I'm a professional dominant, and I enjoy that immensely.  It's great to be able to do what you like for a living.  My website for that is here.  If you'd like to know more about me as a prodomme, please check it out. 

If you need help in crafting your ceremony, I'd be glad to help.  Personal mythologies should be respected and life changing affirmations should be memorable.

Domina

Links to Lilith Stories and Information

Links to Kali Stories and Information

Kali

Alter of the Goddess

Kali Mandir

Kali as Demon Slayer

Alter of the Goddess as Destroyer

Shri Kalika Devi

Kali Goddess

Kali, The Dark Mother

Kali Ma